When you respond to me so that I feel special, it will make up for all those, who during the day, have passed me by without seeing me.
-- Leo Buscaglia

On a day like today, when you can’t be really sure who has your back, why they have it, and if they’ll have it for long, it’s nice to know you can walk in the door of your home and be regarded as the king or queen of the world by someone who loves and adores you.

As you navigate the world each day, you can bet the farm that somebody is going to pee on your parade, insult you, ignore you, second-guess you, discount you, curse you, and/or disrespect you, all quite possibly before 8:00 a.m. Before noon, you’ve taken several emotional and mental lashings, and by the time you say goodnight to the secretary, you’ve been cut up so badly, not even the king’s horses and men can put you back together again. But the warm smile, touch, hug, and listening ear of someone at home – your honey, your babies, your pets, or your friends – can certainly provide a seam that would at least keep you from cracking so easily the next day.

So what happens when there’s no one there to greet you, no one to say “honey, I’m home” to? What happens when you walk in to a dysfunctional empty home, a home that’s so dominated by turmoil, you’d just as soon be out in the frazzled world?

At all times you’ve got yourself to make you feel special. You’ve got you to bring home flowers to, to sing to, to run a warm bath for. You’ve got the one and only person who will always stick by your side no matter what, the one who knows what you need and can provide it for you every time. You’ve got you to be a friend to, mother to, father to, lover to. Tell yourself, “Self, when you respond to me so that I feel special, it makes up for all those, who during the day, have passed me by without seeing me.” Tamia actually says it best. She sings, “And her name is me and she loves me more than you’ll ever know... If you haven’t heard, she’s a bad chick...” Make and be good friends with yourself, the greatest person you’ll ever come to know. If no one else tells you you’re special, if no one sees who you are then treats you as special as you are, then you do it.

Sadiqqa © 2007